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r/relationship_advice

Relationship Advice

r/relationship_advice is one of the largest safe-for-work communities on Reddit, ranked #57 on SubMouse with 15,901,573 subscribers and about 770 new posts a day.

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Rank (SFW)#57
Subscribers15.9M
Growth since Oct 19+9.4K
Posts per day768
Posts all time5.6M
CreatedJun 2009
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About r/relationship_advice

In its own words:

Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help!

The community was created on Jun 14, 2009, which makes it 17 years old. Since Oct 19, 2026, it has gained 9,403 subscribers (+0.06%). It sits just behind r/pcmasterrace (#56) and ahead of r/creepy (#58) in our ranking.

What sets r/relationship_advice apart

Compared with other large communities, r/relationship_advice leans heavily on text posts (100% of recent posts; the typical Top 100 subreddit sits at 17%). For its size it is unusually busy: about 48.3 new posts a day per million members, more than 96% of the Top 100.

Subscriber growth

15.90M15.86MSep 19Oct 29, 2026

Between Sep 19, 2026 and Oct 29, 2026, r/relationship_advice grew from 15,863,448 to 15,901,573 subscribers (+38.1K, +0.24%). That is about 953 new members per day. The chart uses our weekly snapshots (8 so far), so it gets longer every week.

Top posts on r/relationship_advice this week

This week’s highest-ranked posts, in Reddit’s own order (collected Oct 29, 2026).

  1. Found out my husband (32M) is upset that I (27F) haven’t bounced back “as fast” as he wants. What am I supposed to do?u/randomlosttoes · Oct 24 · text post
  2. UPDATE - I [25F] am getting frustrated at my [27M] partner for being unemployedu/Queenehh · Oct 25 · text post
  3. My wife, f62, has given me, m60, an ultimatum that I can't fulfill even though I am willing to fulfill it, where to go from here?u/Yupperroo · Oct 23 · text post
  4. My 31F relationship with my fiancé 28M became really dark and scary last night. I’m thinking about leaving.u/dumbydaffodil · Oct 24 · text post
  5. My (30F) boyfriend (35M) still sleeps in the same bed as his mother, and it's affecting our relationship. Need advice.u/ThrowRA012026 · Oct 28 · text post
  6. Update: My (31F) boyfriend (31M) assumes I'II take on a 25K loss because of his decisions?u/redditrobin26 · Oct 29 · text post
  7. My (29/F) husband (41/M) planned nothing for my 30th birthday.u/Oatmilk-Lattes · Oct 24 · text post
  8. My boyfriend(28m) almost left me(26f) today, even tho we just moved in together. I'm heartbroken.u/cryptidscientist · Oct 27 · text post
  9. My (40M) wife (41F) has started using a fake accentu/Holiday-Turnip-7869 · Oct 26 · text post
  10. My [27M] friend group [27-28M+F] is being torn apart because I kissed a friend's girlfriend's sister. How can we possibly repair?u/LegacyOfMaverick · Oct 25 · text post

All-time top posts

The highest-ranked posts in the history of r/relationship_advice, from 2019 to 2020, ranked by Reddit.

  1. Update: My (32F) husband (36M) became a robot and I don’t know how to help him.u/throwRA-193837472772 · Jul 7, 2020 · text post
  2. UPDATE: My girlfriend told me she was with a friend, but that friend was with me picking out an engagement ring. How do I confront my girlfriend about her lie?u/throwra_wheredshego · Jul 1, 2020 · text post
  3. UPDATE: my son and his "friend" are a couple. How do I let them know it's okay?u/throwralovemygayson · Apr 7, 2020 · 80,298 points · 2,328 comments · text post
  4. [UPDATE]: My (22f) fiance (25m) want his father to check my hymen tomorrow night before I get married.u/FarReference3 · Aug 30, 2019 · 73,793 points · 3,733 comments · text post
  5. My (22M) vegan girlfriend (21F) wants me to get rid of my cat. UPDATEu/throwRA78wdhsg · Jul 25, 2020 · text post
  6. Update: My [36M] wife [34F] keeps tying my boots after I've told her to keep her hands off of them. I tried to teach her a lesson and really hurt her feelings.u/ThrowRAShoes · Jun 6, 2020 · text post
  7. [update] my [32M] best friend [30 F] asked if I would be her sperm donor for her surrogate, I am in love with her but sje has no idea.u/buggybabybumperboats · Mar 2, 2019 · 68,121 points · 1,818 comments · text post
  8. Update: My dad's (43) girlfriend is trying to get rid of me (15 f).u/ThrowRAevlstepmom · Aug 10, 2020 · text post
  9. Mom had an affair 18 years ago, I [18M] am the product of it. My dad just informed me of all this, and told me he will not pay for my college, while my siblings got their college experience paid by o…u/throwawaynocollege01 · Jul 7, 2019 · 64,517 points · 15,995 comments · text post
  10. [UPDATE] You were right. I ignored every single one of your comments and eventually caught my wife with the other manu/ThrowRA_0123 · Jun 16, 2020 · text post

What r/relationship_advice talks about

Across 695 recent posts (Oct 22–Oct 28), the words that come up most are “boyfriend”, “relationship”, “girlfriend”, “partner” and “25f”. Other frequent themes are friend, feel, 24f, 20f, 22f and 23f. Recurring phrases include “long distance”, “boyfriend 28m”, “boyfriend 26m” and “partner 22m”. By format, 100% are text posts and 0% are links.

  • boyfriend 107
  • relationship 100
  • girlfriend 71
  • partner 58
  • 25f 49
  • friend 48
  • feel 48
  • 24f 47
  • 20f 40
  • 22f 37
  • 23f 35
  • love 34
  • 26f 31
  • 28f 29
  • 21f 29
  • 19f 28
  • 18f 27
  • advice 27

Activity and best time to post

r/relationship_advice gets about 770 new posts a day. The public archive holds 5,605,966 posts and 60,307,410 comments in total, about 10.8 comments per post. Last week the busiest day was Tuesday (799 posts) and the quietest was Sunday (700). Posting peaks around 16:00 UTC and is lowest around 06:00 UTC.

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Posts per hour of the day, UTC, Oct 21, 2026 – Oct 27, 2026
Text posts 100%

Rules of r/relationship_advice

The moderators of r/relationship_advice list 11 rules. In short:

  1. Posts must contain a title, description, TLDR, & basic info like ages, genders
  2. All posts must request specific advice on a specific, real situation between two or more people
  3. No questions that can be answered with yes or no (aka moral judgment)
  4. Things This Sub Can't Give Advice On:
  5. Only One Update Is Allowed
  6. Surveys, Academic Research, Information Requests, and Media Questions Should Be Sent to Modmail
  7. All comments must be on topic, and focus on the OP, and be made in good faith
  8. Keep It Civil
  9. No referencing hateful or abusive subs/individuals/content
  10. Do not directly message users

How to join

Open reddit.com/r/relationship_advice and press “Join”. Read the community rules in the sidebar before you post: every subreddit is run by its own volunteer moderators.

Frequently asked questions

How many subscribers does r/relationship_advice have?

r/relationship_advice has 15,901,573 subscribers (Oct 29, 2026), which makes it the #57 safe-for-work subreddit in the SubMouse ranking. It added 38,125 members between Sep 19, 2026 and Oct 29, 2026.

How old is r/relationship_advice?

r/relationship_advice was created on Jun 14, 2009, so it has been around for 17 years.

How active is r/relationship_advice?

Very active: r/relationship_advice gets about 770 new posts a day (average of the last four weeks). Over its lifetime the archive counts 5,605,966 posts and 60,307,410 comments. In a sample of 695 recent posts we counted 629 different authors.

When is r/relationship_advice most active?

Based on post counts from Oct 21, 2026 to Oct 27, 2026, the busiest day was Tuesday and the quietest Sunday, and most posts arrive around 16:00 UTC, with the fewest around 06:00 UTC. More posts also means more competition, so a quieter hour can help a post get noticed.

What is r/relationship_advice about?

The community describes itself as: “Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help!” Recent post titles often mention boyfriend, relationship, girlfriend, partner and 25f. Most posts are text posts (100%).

Is r/relationship_advice safe for work?

Yes. Reddit does not mark r/relationship_advice as an 18+ (NSFW) community. SubMouse lists safe-for-work subreddits only.

How do I post on r/relationship_advice?

Join the community on Reddit first, then use “Create post”. r/relationship_advice accepts text posts only. It has 11 posted rules, starting with: “Posts must contain a title, description, TLDR, & basic info like ages, genders”; “All posts must request specific advice on a specific, real situation between two or more people”; “No questions that can be answered with yes or no (aka moral judgment)”. Moderators remove posts that break the rules, so read them in the sidebar before posting.

Which communities are like r/relationship_advice?

Communities with similar topics include r/AdviceAnimals (9.9M), r/TwoXChromosomes (13.7M), r/confession (12M), r/femalefashionadvice (5.8M) and r/Jokes (30.4M).

Stats from public data (data updated Oct 29, 2026; activity, rules and archive totals via the Arctic Shift archive, Oct 29, 2026; top posts from Reddit’s public feeds). Point and comment counts are archive snapshots and can be lower than on Reddit today. SubMouse is an independent directory and is not affiliated with Reddit or the moderators of r/relationship_advice.

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