About r/AmItheAsshole
In its own words:
A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered!
The community was created on Jun 8, 2013, which makes it 13 years old. Since Oct 19, 2026, it has gained 14,275 subscribers (+0.06%). It sits just behind r/mildlyinteresting (#22) and ahead of r/food (#24) in our ranking.
What sets r/AmItheAsshole apart
r/AmItheAsshole is far more text-driven than most big subreddits: 99% of its recent posts are text posts, against a median of 17% across the Top 100. Posts here spark a lot of conversation: the archive averages 42.0 comments per post, roughly 2.6× the typical big subreddit (16.2). For its size it is unusually busy: about 12.6 new posts a day per million members, more than 86% of the Top 100.
Subscriber growth
Between Sep 19, 2026 and Oct 29, 2026, r/AmItheAsshole climbed from 24,598,639 to 24,659,407 subscribers (+60.8K, +0.25%). That is about 1,519 new members per day. The chart uses our weekly snapshots (8 so far), so it gets longer every week.
Top posts on r/AmItheAsshole this week
What the community upvoted most over the last seven days, as ranked by Reddit (collected Oct 29, 2026).
- AITA because I opened up a secret bank account my dad didn't know about?u/Bubbly-Friend-3896 · Oct 24 · text post
- AITA for not stopping my friend from doing her "dynamic duo" work Halloween costume?u/SadExchange6433 · Oct 23 · text post
- AITA for asking my wife to sleep on the couchu/Narrow-Confusion8126 · Oct 26 · text post
- AITA I (23m) refuse to drive with my friend (22f) in the car because she screams at full volume when scared.u/Blaze_Wolf_Tyler · Oct 29 · text post
- AITA for bringing heart-shaped cakes to the partyu/adam00xix · Oct 24 · text post
- AITA for yelling at my backseat driver wifeu/oh_wow_burner · Oct 25 · text post
- AITA for not giving in to my sister bringing her child to our adults only vacation?u/thetrajanhorse · Oct 27 · text post
- AITA: my friend called me a bitch and a horrible friend over a wedding ruleu/ShrekShed · Oct 28 · text post
- AITA for cooking Thanksgiving for 11 people and transporting it 45 minutesu/Temporary_Brick_5298 · Oct 23 · text post
- AITA for not wanting to lose sleep to drive someone elses kid to work?u/candystreets · Oct 24 · text post
All-time top posts
The highest-ranked posts in the history of r/AmItheAsshole, from 2019 to 2023, ranked by Reddit.
- AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?u/OnlyInQuebec9 · Jul 3, 2021 · 81,021 points · 5,295 comments · text post
- META: This sub is moving towards a value system that frequently doesn't align with the rest of the worldu/DarthCharizard · Sep 20, 2019 · 80,917 points · 6,355 comments · text post
- UPDATE, AITA for despising my mentally handicap sister?u/Renegadesrule33 · Mar 11, 2019 · 66,384 points · 1,992 comments · text post
- AITA For suing my girlfriend after she had my 1967 impala project taken to the scrapyard?u/Jimothyisyouruncle · May 26, 2020 · text post
- UPDATE: AITA for wanting to go to the funeral of a girl that I helped get addicted to drugs?u/sgdneyrother · Jul 29, 2019 · 64,893 points · 2 comments · text post
- AITA for pretending to get fired when customers get a temper with me?u/throwRA-fhfsveyary · Dec 3, 2019 · 60,634 points · 3,630 comments · text post
- AITA for bringing up my brother's "premature" birth at Christmas dinner to get my parents to shut up?u/SupermarketFair3341 · Dec 26, 2022 · 53,700 points · 3,164 comments · text post
- UPDATE: WIBTA if I took over planning my own funeral from my very religious parents?u/Dyingisstressful · Mar 19, 2020 · 54,571 points · 2 comments · text post
- AITA for making a dad joke?u/DadJokeAITA · Oct 13, 2019 · 56,878 points · 2,046 comments · text post
- AITA for not taking down my video that was a gift from my best man.u/Savings-Pattern3614 · Aug 26, 2022 · 47,773 points · 5,590 comments · text post
What r/AmItheAsshole talks about
We read the titles of 675 recent posts (Oct 21–Oct 28), the words that come up most are “aita”, “friend”, “telling”, “aitah” and “wanting”. Other frequent themes are friends, wibta, sister, refusing, mom and asking. Recurring phrases include “birthday party”, “mental health”, “online friend” and “birthday lunch”. By format, 99% are text posts and 1% are links.
Popular post flairs: Not the A-hole (134), Asshole (46), No A-holes here (11), POO Mode Activated 💩 (9), Everyone Sucks (9), Not enough info (2).
Activity and best time to post
r/AmItheAsshole gets about 310 new posts a day. The public archive holds 2,784,617 posts and 116,836,695 comments in total, about 42.0 comments per post. Last week the busiest day was Tuesday (323 posts) and the quietest was Sunday (300). Posting peaks around 18:00 UTC and is lowest around 09:00 UTC.
Rules of r/AmItheAsshole
The moderators of r/AmItheAsshole list 15 rules. In short:
- Be Civil
- Voting Rules
- Accept Your Judgment
- Never Delete An Active Discussion
- No Violeпce
- How To Post
- Post Interpersonal Conflicts
- No Shitposts
- Do Not Ask For Advice
- Updates and META posts are restricted
How to join
Open reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole and press “Join”. Read the community rules in the sidebar before you post: every subreddit is run by its own volunteer moderators.
Frequently asked questions
How big is r/AmItheAsshole?
r/AmItheAsshole has 24,659,407 subscribers (Oct 29, 2026), which makes it the #23 safe-for-work subreddit in the SubMouse ranking. It added 60,768 members between Sep 19, 2026 and Oct 29, 2026.
When was r/AmItheAsshole created?
r/AmItheAsshole was created on Jun 8, 2013, so it has been around for 13 years.
Is r/AmItheAsshole still active?
Yes. r/AmItheAsshole gets about 310 new posts a day (average of the last week). Over its lifetime the archive counts 2,784,617 posts and 116,836,695 comments. In a sample of 675 recent posts we counted 612 different authors.
What is the best time to post in r/AmItheAsshole?
Based on post counts from Oct 21, 2026 to Oct 27, 2026, the busiest day was Tuesday and the quietest Sunday, and most posts arrive around 18:00 UTC, with the fewest around 09:00 UTC. More posts also means more competition, so a quieter hour can help a post get noticed.
What kind of posts are on r/AmItheAsshole?
The community describes itself as: “A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; giv…” Recent post titles often mention aita, friend, telling, aitah and wanting. Most posts are text posts (99%).
Is r/AmItheAsshole SFW?
Yes. Reddit does not mark r/AmItheAsshole as an 18+ (NSFW) community. SubMouse lists safe-for-work subreddits only.
What are the rules of r/AmItheAsshole?
Join the community on Reddit first, then use “Create post”. r/AmItheAsshole accepts text posts only. It has 15 posted rules, starting with: “Be Civil”; “Voting Rules”; “Accept Your Judgment”. Moderators remove posts that break the rules, so read them in the sidebar before posting.
What subreddits are similar to r/AmItheAsshole?
Communities with similar topics include r/Whatcouldgowrong (8M), r/MadeMeSmile (12.7M), r/tifu (19M), r/confession (12M) and r/nottheonion (26.1M).
Stats from public data (data updated Oct 29, 2026; activity, rules and archive totals via the Arctic Shift archive, Oct 29, 2026; top posts from Reddit’s public feeds). Point and comment counts are archive snapshots and can be lower than on Reddit today. SubMouse is an independent directory and is not affiliated with Reddit or the moderators of r/AmItheAsshole.