About r/raisedbynarcissists
In its own words:
This is a support group for people raised by abusive parents (with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders). Please share your stories, your questions, your histories, your fears and your triumphs. Significant others and friends are all welcome.
Community guide
r/raisedbynarcissists (#948, about 1.2 million) is a high-volume support group for people raised by abusive or narcissistic parents—vent and advice flairs, with strict anti-victim-blaming and anti-violence norms.
What belongs
Support posts from people raised in toxic/abusive parent dynamics (about 137 posts/day, text). Rules: no attacks/victim-blaming; assume abuse context; don’t derail OP; no empty platitudes; no violence/revenge advocacy; no Facebook/Discord link-outs; no N-kids posts; no drive-by diagnoses; no estranged-parent forum links; no fundraisers/surveys; no clickbait titles; narcissists may not post; no hate-group links.
Versus insaneparents and JUSTNOMIL
Those neighbour rooms cover overlapping family toxicity with different scopes (MIL-focused, etc.). RBN is specifically the raised-by-N support frame.
Practical pointers
Use flairs for advice-ok vs no-advice vents; never advocate revenge.
The community was created on Feb 18, 2013, which makes it 13 years old. Since Nov 2, 2026, it has gained 1,246 subscribers (+0.11%). It sits just behind r/Cheese (#947) and ahead of r/homelab (#949) in our ranking.
What sets r/raisedbynarcissists apart
r/raisedbynarcissists is far more text-driven than most big subreddits: 100% of its recent posts are text posts, against a median of 35% across the Top 100. For its size it is unusually busy: about 122.0 new posts a day per million members, more than 97% of the Top 100. Its rhythm is strongly tied to time zones: the busiest hour (16:00 UTC) sees about 3.8× as many posts as the quietest (07:00 UTC).
Subscriber growth
Between Sep 19, 2026 and Nov 9, 2026, r/raisedbynarcissists went up from 1,110,859 to 1,119,849 subscribers (+9K, +0.81%). That is about 176 new members per day. The chart shows 10 weekly subscriber counts.
Top posts on r/raisedbynarcissists this week
This week’s highest-ranked posts, in Reddit’s own order (collected Nov 8, 2026).
- My mom “forgot” my shellfish allergy at every family dinner for years, always in front of an audienceu/TurtonSeghier27 · Nov 3 · text post
- What stories did your parents proudly tell others that, looking back, did not shine a good light on them?u/ijaruj · Nov 2 · text post
- My mother filled out my ballot for me and turned it in behind my back.u/Cool-cat-199 · Nov 4 · text post
- My mom committed voter fraudu/ravioli_idk · Nov 6 · text post
- I read my moms diary from when I was a teen and now I feel cold to heru/skinofm · Nov 6 · text post
- I'm so fucking angry at how much time we lose living in these family systems, how much it takes away from us and how hard it is to function in this society as a result.u/bacwaterjar · Nov 3 · text post
- My mom wants me to take a Virginity Testu/misomei · Nov 1 · text post
- A therapist implied I was a narcissist. How do I find out if it’s true?u/empathicsynesthete · Nov 6 · text post
- My Mother contacted my Trauma Therapist…u/GiftedTongue12 · Nov 4 · text post
- They don’t actually love you. They don’t even 'like' youu/No_Rock_8772 · Nov 6 · text post
All-time top posts
The highest-ranked posts in the history of r/raisedbynarcissists, from 2017 to 2021, ranked by Reddit.
- That time my sister took me "camping".u/hikingsisters · Feb 28, 2017 · 21,265 points · 209 comments · text post
- Saw a dad in the store shopping for back to school stuff.u/AllFatherElena · Jul 17, 2020 · text post
- My Mother's friends all shut her down when she told a story about my "badness"u/Spontanemoose · Jan 16, 2019 · 8,637 points · 495 comments · text post
- I found myself and my 8 year old daughter in the same scenario as when my Nmom damaged me as a 10year old.... and I chose to be better.u/SiltyFemoidPigeon · Feb 5, 2019 · 8,696 points · 350 comments · text post
- Cops knock down my dorm door because Nmom lied to get me backu/samiamgreeneggsinham · Nov 25, 2018 · 7,667 points · 379 comments · text post
- I caught myself and stopped a learned narcissistic trait, and am so proud of myself.Jun 23, 2020 · text post
- What If I Told You?u/jeopardy_themesong · May 30, 2018 · 5,715 points · 173 comments · text post
- I thought I was just always a night owl who liked to stay up till 4am. I now realized I stay up late because that is the only time I can truly relax because no one will barge into my room at 4am.u/ShitsNGigglesIGuess · May 18, 2020 · text post
- Wasn’t expecting that response, Nmom?u/Campaschristmas · Aug 4, 2018 · 5,107 points · 133 comments · text post
- Mentioned to my husband how loudly he walks. He said, "Yes, I was never punished for reminding my parents that I exist."u/Ralynne · Oct 31, 2019 · 8,533 points · 538 comments · text post
What r/raisedbynarcissists talks about
Looking at the titles of 700 recent posts (Oct 29–Nov 5), the words that come up most are “parents”, “mom”, “mother”, “dad” and “family”. Other frequent themes are feel, narcissistic, parent, narc, father and life. Recurring phrases include “narc parent”, “narcissistic parents”, “abusive father” and “low contact”. By format, 100% are text posts.
Popular post flairs: [Rant/Vent, Advice OK] (279), [Advice Request] (158), [Question] (118), [Supportive Responses Only, Advice OK] (46), [Rant/Vent, No Advice] (33), [Supportive Responses Only, No Advice] (13).
Activity and best time to post
r/raisedbynarcissists gets about 140 new posts a day. The public archive holds 825,838 posts and 8,789,246 comments in total, about 10.6 comments per post. Last week the busiest day was Sunday (157 posts) and the quietest was Saturday (117). Posting peaks around 16:00 UTC and is lowest around 07:00 UTC.
Rules of r/raisedbynarcissists
The moderators of r/raisedbynarcissists list 15 rules. In short:
- No - personal attacks/bigotry/victim-blaming. No advocating for someone else's N or GC sibling.
- Always assume a context of abuse
- Do not derail the OP
- No platitudes or generic motivational or generic advice posts
- No advocating violence or revenge, even in jest
- No linking to Facebook pages, Discords, or chat rooms/groups
- No posts about N-kids
- No diagnosis by media or drive-by diagnosis.
- No linking to estranged parent forums.
- No links to GoFundMe pages, fundraisers, etc. No surveys. No research requests.
How to join
Open reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists and press “Join”. Read the community rules in the sidebar before you post: every subreddit is run by its own volunteer moderators.
Frequently asked questions
How many subscribers does r/raisedbynarcissists have?
r/raisedbynarcissists has 1,119,849 subscribers (Nov 9, 2026), which makes it the #948 safe-for-work subreddit in the SubMouse ranking. It added 8,990 members between Sep 19, 2026 and Nov 9, 2026.
When was r/raisedbynarcissists created?
r/raisedbynarcissists was created on Feb 18, 2013, so it has been around for 13 years.
Is r/raisedbynarcissists still active?
Yes. r/raisedbynarcissists gets about 140 new posts a day (average of the last four weeks). Over its lifetime the archive counts 825,838 posts and 8,789,246 comments. In a sample of 700 recent posts we counted 578 different authors.
What is the best time to post in r/raisedbynarcissists?
Based on post counts from Oct 29, 2026 to Nov 4, 2026, the busiest day was Sunday and the quietest Saturday, and most posts arrive around 16:00 UTC, with the fewest around 07:00 UTC. More posts also means more competition, so a quieter hour can help a post get noticed.
What kind of posts are on r/raisedbynarcissists?
The community describes itself as: “This is a support group for people raised by abusive parents (with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders). Please share your …” Recent post titles often mention parents, mom, mother, dad and family. Most posts are text posts (100%).
Is r/raisedbynarcissists SFW?
Yes. Reddit does not mark r/raisedbynarcissists as an 18+ (NSFW) community. SubMouse lists safe-for-work subreddits only.
What are the rules of r/raisedbynarcissists?
Join the community on Reddit first, then use “Create post”. r/raisedbynarcissists accepts text posts only, with galleries enabled. It has 15 posted rules, starting with: “No - personal attacks/bigotry/victim-blaming. No advocating for someone else's N or GC sibling.”; “Always assume a context of abuse”; “Do not derail the OP”. Moderators remove posts that break the rules, so read them in the sidebar before posting.
What subreddits are similar to r/raisedbynarcissists?
Communities with similar topics include r/SingleParents (1.4M), r/entitledparents (2M), r/insaneparents (1.4M), r/JUSTNOMIL (1.9M) and r/childfree (1.6M).
Stats from public data (data updated Nov 9, 2026; activity, rules and archive totals via the Arctic Shift archive, Nov 6, 2026; top posts from Reddit’s public feeds). Point and comment counts are archive snapshots and can be lower than on Reddit today. SubMouse is an independent directory and is not affiliated with Reddit or the moderators of r/raisedbynarcissists.