About r/DecidingToBeBetter
In its own words:
This community is dedicated to self-improvement, personal growth, and supporting each other on our journeys to become better. If you’ve decided to leave behind what no longer serves you and are committed to progress, this is the place for you.
Community guide
r/DecidingToBeBetter (#756, about 1.4 million subscribers) — This community is dedicated to self-improvement, personal growth, and supporting each other on our journeys to become better. If you’ve decided to leave behind what no longer serves you and are committed to progress,… A recent sample averaged 41 posts a day (~100% text). Its public rules include: All posts must be about deciding to be better and follow posting criteria; Be respectful and no bigotry is allowed; No NSFW, porn or masturbation addiction posts/discussions are allowed. It is listed under “Lifestyles”.
What belongs here
Stay inside the room’s stated scope rather than adjacent off-topic dumps. Self-promotion and ads are limited—read those rules before linking your own channel or shop. Civility/anti-harassment rules apply; personal attacks get removed. Medical advice requests are out of scope.
How it differs from lookalikes
Prefer this room when your post matches its description and rules—not merely a larger sibling community. The public rule list is long enough that skimming all entries once beats assuming defaults from similar subs.
Practical pointers
Read the live sidebar/rules before posting; rules can change. Common flairs include: Seeking Advice, Discussion, Spreading Positivity, Sharing Helpful Tips.
The community was created on Jan 1, 2012, which makes it 14 years old. Since Nov 2, 2026, it has gained 2,033 subscribers (+0.14%). It sits just behind r/CODWarzone (#755) and ahead of r/Simulated (#757) in our ranking.
What sets r/DecidingToBeBetter apart
Compared with other large communities, r/DecidingToBeBetter leans heavily on text posts (100% of recent posts; the typical Top 100 subreddit sits at 35%). r/DecidingToBeBetter is more of a browsing community than a debating one: 6.1 comments per post on average, well under the Top 100 median of 13.0. It is also one of the faster-growing big communities: its 0.98% gain since Sep 19, 2026 beats 89% of the Top 100. Its rhythm is strongly tied to time zones: the busiest hour (21:00 UTC) sees about 10.0× as many posts as the quietest (03:00 UTC).
Subscriber growth
Between Sep 19, 2026 and Nov 9, 2026, r/DecidingToBeBetter climbed from 1,396,091 to 1,409,725 subscribers (+13.6K, +0.98%). That is about 267 new members per day. The chart shows 10 weekly subscriber counts.
Top posts on r/DecidingToBeBetter this week
What the community upvoted most over the last seven days, as ranked by Reddit (collected Nov 8, 2026).
- I changed my life in 2 days.u/Cumpasta420 · Nov 5 · text post
- Those who turned your life around in your early 30s, what's your story and how did you do it?u/Mystery_Destiny1110 · Nov 6 · text post
- I’m gonna fcking change.u/unfinished_G · Nov 3 · text post
- Overthinking is ruining my lifeu/Ssingleaspringle · Nov 4 · text post
- It's time. I need to get rid of Reddit, please help so that I don't end up coming back.u/coolfunkDJ · Nov 7 · text post
- 1yr 32 dys alcohol free and 5yrs drug free weekend peaceful.u/Shawn_SoberShift · Nov 2 · text post
- Has anyone felt with self-forgiveness? How does one forgive themselves?u/unfair_carrot360 · Nov 2 · text post
- I’m 26, unemployed, living with my parents, have never been in a relationship, and genuinely don’t know how to get my life together.u/ghikkkll · Nov 7 · text post
- Im afraid my past actions will haunt me for the rest of my life.u/makingmyselfhappi · Nov 3 · text post
- How to stop being homophobic?u/Training_Moment9177 · Nov 7 · text post
All-time top posts
The highest-ranked posts in the history of r/DecidingToBeBetter, from 2019 to 2021, ranked by Reddit.
- I have now officially made it 30 days without soda from having at least 3-4 cans per day previously! I feel a little awkward posting this, like maybe it's not a big deal, but I don't have a lot of fr…u/lavenderLapin · Mar 27, 2019 · 13,770 points · 665 comments · text post
- I know this will die in new but I just wanted to tell someone that I am 20 days sober now. Haven't had a drink, cig and smoked weed in 20 days after doing that shit everyday for the past year.Mar 30, 2020 · 7,759 points · 187 comments · text post
- Last year, I barely could run to our mailboxes (quarter mile). Yesterday, I ran 4 miles, under 40 minutes. I feel like a champu/nikoTiittanen · May 9, 2020 · text post
- Officially a year sober today from alcohol! This is the first year in my life I haven't had a drink since I was 13.u/Edgar-Allan-Br0 · May 5, 2020 · text post
- Virtual hug for everyone trying to heal from things they don't like to talk about.Aug 9, 2020 · text post
- Clean off cocaine for 7 weeks after a year of abuse.u/Blahboy77 · May 25, 2020 · text post
- I decided to stop giving my husband chances to change, and I changed instead. I'm divorcing him and now no longer suffering from suicidal thoughts and insomnia, and learning new skills instead!u/rock_kid · Aug 31, 2020 · text post
- Got rid of the last of my Confederate stuff.Apr 21, 2021 · text post
- What do you want for yourself?u/ChickenCamelClutch · Apr 30, 2020 · text post
- I chose water over coke with my meal, and had one bowl of cereal instead of 3 this morningu/kiki7893 · May 20, 2020 · text post
What r/DecidingToBeBetter talks about
Looking at the titles of 231 recent posts (Oct 29–Nov 5), the words that come up most are “life”, “stop”, “feel”, “person” and “help”. Other frequent themes are past, love, forgive, trying, advice and actually. Recurring phrases include “life pass”, “heart breakthrough”, “true peace” and “peace healing”. By format, 100% are text posts.
Popular post flairs: Seeking Advice (165), Discussion (36), Spreading Positivity (11), Sharing Helpful Tips (10), Success Story (5), Progress Update (4).
Activity and best time to post
r/DecidingToBeBetter gets about 41 new posts a day. The public archive holds 177,539 posts and 1,084,768 comments in total, about 6.1 comments per post. Last week the busiest day was Thursday (50 posts) and the quietest was Wednesday (18). Posting peaks around 21:00 UTC and is lowest around 03:00 UTC.
Rules of r/DecidingToBeBetter
The moderators of r/DecidingToBeBetter list 9 rules. In short:
- All posts must be about deciding to be better and follow posting criteria
- Be respectful and no bigotry is allowed
- No NSFW, porn or masturbation addiction posts/discussions are allowed
- Strictly NO links/spam/self-promotion/advertising
- No venting/self-hate posts or posts talking about self-harm/suicide
- No seeking/offering medical advice or diagnosis
- No drug/medication advice
- Requests for services, goods, or assistance are not permitted
- NO political debates or discussions
How to join
Open reddit.com/r/DecidingToBeBetter and press “Join”. Read the community rules in the sidebar before you post: every subreddit is run by its own volunteer moderators.
Frequently asked questions
How many subscribers does r/DecidingToBeBetter have?
r/DecidingToBeBetter has 1,409,725 subscribers (Nov 9, 2026), which makes it the #756 safe-for-work subreddit in the SubMouse ranking. It added 13,634 members between Sep 19, 2026 and Nov 9, 2026.
When was r/DecidingToBeBetter created?
r/DecidingToBeBetter was created on Jan 1, 2012, so it has been around for 14 years.
Is r/DecidingToBeBetter still active?
Yes. r/DecidingToBeBetter gets about 41 new posts a day (average of the last four weeks). Over its lifetime the archive counts 177,539 posts and 1,084,768 comments. In a sample of 231 recent posts we counted 202 different authors.
What is the best time to post in r/DecidingToBeBetter?
Based on post counts from Oct 29, 2026 to Nov 4, 2026, the busiest day was Thursday and the quietest Wednesday, and most posts arrive around 21:00 UTC, with the fewest around 03:00 UTC. More posts also means more competition, so a quieter hour can help a post get noticed.
What kind of posts are on r/DecidingToBeBetter?
The community describes itself as: “This community is dedicated to self-improvement, personal growth, and supporting each other on our journeys to become better. If you’ve decided to leave behind what no longer serves you and are committed to progress, th…” Recent post titles often mention life, stop, feel, person and help. Most posts are text posts (100%).
Is r/DecidingToBeBetter SFW?
Yes. Reddit does not mark r/DecidingToBeBetter as an 18+ (NSFW) community, and its own rules forbid NSFW content. SubMouse lists safe-for-work subreddits only.
What are the rules of r/DecidingToBeBetter?
Join the community on Reddit first, then use “Create post”. r/DecidingToBeBetter accepts both text and link posts, with images and polls enabled. It has 9 posted rules, starting with: “All posts must be about deciding to be better and follow posting criteria”; “Be respectful and no bigotry is allowed”; “No NSFW, porn or masturbation addiction posts/discussions are allowed”. Moderators remove posts that break the rules, so read them in the sidebar before posting.
What subreddits are similar to r/DecidingToBeBetter?
Communities with similar topics include r/BetterEveryLoop (3M).
Stats from public data (data updated Nov 9, 2026; activity, rules and archive totals via the Arctic Shift archive, Nov 6, 2026; top posts from Reddit’s public feeds). Point and comment counts are archive snapshots and can be lower than on Reddit today. SubMouse is an independent directory and is not affiliated with Reddit or the moderators of r/DecidingToBeBetter.